I have always loved to read. The books I was drawn to were not stories and such, but rather books about all the facets of one's inner life. Many people call them self-help books and that was the name of the section in the store often times, but I knew I could not help myself without God so the term self-help was always laughable to me and not at all fitting.
I learned so much about the inner workings of the mind and emotions, about spirit and soul, about taking responsibility for my own inner life. Self-pity is a very sneaky and subtle, yet very real activity that goes on in the mind of a depressed person and all too often goes undetected especially by the one doing it. To admit that you indulge regularly in self-pity kills the victim mentality and forces one to take responsibility for oneself. It is one of the hardest things I have ever had to do all the while one of the most freeing things I have ever experienced. It took many years of struggle and pain, many years of wondering what God was doing, many years of confusion. A person, of which I was one, can be so entangled in their own self-pitying thinking that it feels normal and they truly cannot see their own thought patterns, Their thoughts and feelings are difficult to separate and often stay entangled. Feelings are so big and heavy that attempts at purposeful thinking get thwarted at the beginning stage.
To jump ahead to where I am now - you'd think I was talking about someone else. I have learned to stand on the truth of God's Word. When feelings don't support what I know to be true I don't give those feelings the time of day - they get ignored. That is not repressing, suppressing or depressing my feelings, it is confessing all to God and allowing his truth to prevail.
The energy that Melancholies put forth to be what they think they should be could fuel the world for years. Read the verse in the graphic above - Jesus will give us rest. What is that rest?