I watch how I have handled things and I reflect on stuff like that a lot. My husband is the one who called me to tell me he was in a motorcycle accident so that was a very good thing as I knew he was OK enough to talk to me. He told me he thought he broke his hip so I knew I needed to go to the hospital. I gathered some stuff I thought he and I might need just to start and I took off for the hospital. It was a Sunday so there wasn't much traffic and when I was just about there the rear view mirror in our van fell off. That's the fun extra stuff you just gotta love! I was glad that I was calm and it was something I just learned about myself as I really did not know what I would be like if something like this really happened. I didn't over dramatize it in my mind and I always look for the silver lining in everything.
I ended up staying the night every night except the night he was transferred to another hospital since it was late and we didn't know their rules, plus it was in an area my husband didn't want me alone at night. Other than that I stayed at the hospital 24/7. I knew my husband would just plain old feel better with me there, having had a 59 day hospital stay myself twenty three years ago (1990) with my initial MS exacerbation. I knew the importance of staying there for him. It all just kicked in almost like auto-pilot. I didn't question how I felt about it or if I wanted to do it or not, I just did what was best for him. I guess that's what love does!
I decided right away with my first conversation that I was going to be patient and kind with every person I had to deal with. I watched people come in the room in one mood and leave with spirits lifted in a much better mood. Wow! What a lesson right before my very eyes. I helped my husband a lot and did some things for him that the nurses would have had to normally do for him. My family did the same for me when I was in the hospital. I think the nurses appreciate that, but they don't talk about it.
I love seeing what I can do when placed in a situation that calls for giving more than you think you have to give. I am amazed over and over at what God has allowed me to accomplish. My biggest desire is that my husband see that I love him and care for him as much as I really do and that God is pleased.