Truth is - I could stay home every day except for going to church and grocery shopping. I love my church, and worshiping my Lord. However, grocery shopping is a necessity that can't be done online.
I'm not saying anyone should aspire to be like me; however, I am saying that it is OK to be like me if you are so inclined. I used to feel odd and think something was wrong with preferring home to Christmas activities. The more I embrace my own temperament the more I seem to accomplish (this website for instance).
It's easy to be riddled with guilt and feel selfish. Isn't that what we Melancholy's do? We have to fight that with everything in us. At the same time I fight hard to be involved. Sounds like conflicting advice doesn't it? It's really not. Both are true and as much as we love to be alone and by far prefer it we also want to be emotionally healthy people and realize that as followers of Christ we need to be available.
It is a balancing act that is sometimes a struggle, but not always. We make it much harder on ourselves by allowing guilt and shame and even self-condemnation to creep in and eventually overwhelm us.
I say that by developing a more consistent pray life we become more open to picking and choosing what activities we attend. We can relax and be who we were created to be without guilt, etc.